A big part of self-love is being protective of your time and energy. You have permission to rest. You are not responsible for fixing everything that is broken. You do not have to try and make everyone happy. Remember to take time for you, time to recover and replenish.

Self-love is perhaps one of the most fundamental yet misunderstood concepts. Some dismiss it as a new age ideology that cannot be applied in practical terms. But nothing could be further from the truth. Naturally, we love ourselves as Scriptures teaches us to love our neighbors as we love ourselves. On the other hand, Scripture does warn us about self-love. Our focus should not be on ourselves. We must trade self-centered love for agape love. Loving yourself too much shows selfishness and arrogance which God hates. It leads to self-criticism and the sin of boasting. Take your eyes off of yourself and look at the interests of other people.

Self-love is the ultimate way to boost your self-esteem and become a fully healed and integrated human being. People often come at the idea backwards. They look at attributes such as the way that a confident person walks or observes their traits. But fundamentally, all radical change begins from within. You then start to really value yourself as a powerful creator of your own reality and deserving of love and respect from everybody. Self-love is the opposite of selfishness. You cannot love another person unconditionally unless you love yourself first. Self-love is not about engaging in destructive patterns of behavior and turning a blind eye. It has nothing to do with arrogance or narcissism and it's only everything to do with becoming a fully whole and integrated individual.

When you are able to exercise self-love, your life will become so much easier. This is because you will not sabotage yourself as much, which is what everybody does with their beliefs about unworthiness. You will also have much more stability in your life as you will no longer depend on others for fulfillment. Your emotions and reactions will not be volatile and you will actually become detached (but not uncaring) from a lot of stuff that goes on in the world. Love is the ultimate building block of the entire universe. Humans are born into the arms of loving parents and die with their loved ones around them (ideally). They live and die by love alone. Your ability to love yourself and others are all that really matters. How to get there is another matter entirely. For this, you have to find out who you are and love yourself unconditionally.

“Know thy self and you shalt know the Gods and all the universe”


Psalm 139:14 I will give thanks to you because I have been so amazingly and miraculously made. Your works are miraculous, and my soul is fully aware of this.

Ephesians 5:29 For no one has ever hated his own body, but he nourishes and tenderly cares for it, as the Messiah does the church.

Proverbs 19:8 To acquire wisdom is to love oneself; people who cherish understanding will prosper.

Love others as you love yourself. 

Mark 12:31 The second is equally important: Love your neighbor as yourself. No other commandment is greater than these.

Leviticus 19:34 Treat them like native-born Israelites and love them as you love yourself. Remember that you were once foreigners living in the land of Egypt. I am the LORD your God.

James 2:8  Nevertheless, you are doing the right thing if you obey the royal Law in keeping with the Scripture, “You must love your neighbor as yourself.”

Leviticus 19:18 “You are not to seek vengeance or hold a grudge against the descendants of your people. Instead, love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD.”

Self-worship is a sin.

2 Timothy 3:1-2 You must realize, however, that in the last days difficult times will come. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy.

Proverbs 21:4 Haughty eyes and a proud heart, the lamp of the wicked, are sin.

Proverbs 18:12 Haughtiness goes before destruction; humility precedes honor.

Proverbs 16:5 The LORD detests the proud; they will surely be punished.

Galatians 6:3 For if anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself.

Proverbs 27:2 Praise should come from another person and not from your own mouth, from a stranger, and not from your own lips.

Don’t focus on yourself, instead focus on the awesome love that God has for you.

1 John 4:19 We love because God first loved us.

Ephesians 2:4-5 But God, who is rich in mercy, because of his great love for us even when we were dead because of our offenses, made us alive together with the Messiah (by grace you have been saved.)

Psalm 36:7 How precious is your gracious love, God! The children of men take refuge in the shadow of your wings.

Romans 5:8 But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

Think of others as more significant than yourself. 

Romans 12:10 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.

Philippians 2:3 Do nothing out of rivalry or conceit, but in humility consider others as more important than yourselves.

Galatians 5:26 Let us not become boastful, challenging one another, envying one another.